{"id":30264,"date":"2021-03-28T04:00:20","date_gmt":"2021-03-27T19:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/world\/2021\/mar\/27\/it-took-me-a-long-time-to-free-my-mind-charlotte-grimshaw-on-her-father-ck-stead"},"modified":"2021-03-28T04:00:20","modified_gmt":"2021-03-27T19:00:20","slug":"it-took-me-a-long-time-to-free-my-mind-charlotte-grimshaw-on-her-father-ck-stead","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/?p=30264","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;It took me a long time to free my mind&#8217;: Charlotte Grimshaw on her father CK Stead"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In an extract from her memoir, the New Zealand writer questions the years she spent defending her famous father in public <\/p>\n<p>When I turned 13 it seemed that, for my mother, Kay, and my father, Karl, I had become simply \u201canother woman\u201d in the house. He joked and flirted, annoying Kay, and behaved as if we were not a family but a group of individuals: one man, three women including my sister (flatterers, rivals for his attention) and a son whom he tended to overlook. Oliver either refused to participate, or wasn\u2019t invited to the fanclub.<\/p>\n<p>All the language and behaviour changed; they stopped behaving like parents. He liked the idea I could write, and she, already stung, hurt and excluded by the disloyalty of his infidelities, grew so hostile towards me that daily life turned toxic.<\/p>\n<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/world\/2021\/mar\/27\/it-took-me-a-long-time-to-free-my-mind-charlotte-grimshaw-on-her-father-ck-stead\">Continue reading&#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In an extract from her memoir, the New Zealand writer questions the years she spent defending her famous father in public When I turned 13 it seemed that, for my mother, Kay, and my father, Karl, I had become simply \u201canother woman\u201d in the house. He jok&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2044,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sns_share_botton_hide":"","vkExUnit_sns_title":"","_vk_print_noindex":"","sitemap_hide":"","_veu_custom_css":"","veu_display_promotion_alert":"","vkexunit_cta_each_option":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[41,56,42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30264","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-asia-pacific","category-new-zealand","category-world-news"],"veu_head_title_object":{"title":"","add_site_title":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30264","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2044"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=30264"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30264\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30265,"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30264\/revisions\/30265"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=30264"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=30264"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eastasianews.net\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=30264"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}